It's Personal...

Count Arioch the 28th · Tue Apr 28, 2015 8:24 am

So yeah, I've been more or less exiled from my social circle, I've lost my closest friend out where I moved (not from death, for other reasons), I'm not close to my friends back in VA anymore due to them either becoming fundies, teabaggers, or druggies, and due to poor decisions on my part I've purposefully driven away all of the people I was dating that took me years to meet and get close to.

At least I have money, a roof over my head, and it doesn't look like I'm going to die before I hit 40 like it did last year. But still, I'm feeling crabby so apologies in advance for being a douchebag because it's going to happen...

vagrant · Post by **vagrant** » Tue Apr 28, 2015 10:26 am

Well, Richmond is a shitty town, but if you're in VA and you're looking for pretty awesome nerds to be uber-nerdy with, you could do worse than look up VCU's Skiffy club and the crowd at Don't Look Back.

Count Arioch the 28th · Tue Apr 28, 2015 7:10 pm

It's not hard to find shittier towns in Virginia. If I'm ever in the area I'll check that out.

tussock · Post by **tussock** » Wed Apr 29, 2015 8:52 am

Count wrote:the people I was dating that took me years to meet and get close to.

That sounds like fun, so do that again. You'll be good at it with all the practice.

You know, meet people, get close to them, make shitty decisions, drive them away again. Only skip the last two bits if you want.

Count Arioch the 28th · Wed Apr 29, 2015 8:59 pm

Oh, I'm sure I will. I'm just butthurt about it right now.

EDIT: I can say one thing, I will be reluctant to enter an open/poly relationship in the future. Before anyone jumps my shit, yes I'm aware that a data point of 1 is not a good way to make generalizations, I suggest you eat a dick if you feel the need to one-up me like that. That being said, even when things were going awesome it felt like more work, but not more reward proportionally. Taking some me time for a bit. No, I'm not working on myself, I'm doing things that benefit me personally.

Ancient History · Post by **Ancient History** » Thu Apr 30, 2015 9:44 am

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Kaelik · Post by **Kaelik** » Thu Apr 30, 2015 10:56 am

Count Arioch the 28th wrote:EDIT: I can say one thing, I will be reluctant to enter an open/poly relationship in the future. Before anyone jumps my shit, yes I'm aware that a data point of 1 is not a good way to make generalizations, I suggest you eat a dick if you feel the need to one-up me like that. That being said, even when things were going awesome it felt like more work, but not more reward proportionally. Taking some me time for a bit. No, I'm not working on myself, I'm doing things that benefit me personally.

If you had a dick in your butt one time, and you didn't like it, that one time is probably good enough to declare that you don't like dicks in your butt. You could definitely be wrong, but when it comes to your own personal preferences, all decisions are made on anecdotes and not data.

If you don't like open/poly relationships, then you don't like them. If you are wrong about whether you don't like open/poly relationships who gives a fuck?

erik · Post by **erik** » Wed May 06, 2015 12:51 am

My 4 year old just got a birthday invitation to an "all white" birthday party for a classmate's 4th birthday at some lakefront jazz bar/cafe on the opposite side of Indianapolis (i.e. like 30-40 minutes away from where their preschool district is at).

I had to look up what an "all white" party was, I assumed initially that it was something Occluded Sun might attend with his pointy dress-hood, but apparently people just dress up in nice white clothes. Typically not 3-4 year-olds, I imagine. Who does that?

I feel like I'm being put on. Like this birthday invite is some clever joke that I don't understand. The party is on the "23th" of this month, making me further doubt its authenticity.

Blasted · Post by **Blasted** » Wed May 06, 2015 12:57 am

Sounds like a party some of my more wealthy friends have thrown for their kids.
Really just for the parents, with plenty of snap opportunities, and champagne on hand.
Highly recommended for adults, kids can have fun too, maybe.

tussock · Post by **tussock** » Wed May 06, 2015 9:17 am

It's a way to show off your wealth. Ah ha, look at me in these very nice clothes that clearly have no practical purpose and I will never otherwise wear, and all my real friends are doing it too. Wear whatever you want, try not to notice that everyone else is an idiot.

RobbyPants · Post by **RobbyPants** » Wed May 06, 2015 12:35 pm

erik wrote:The party is on the "23th" of this month, making me further doubt its authenticity.

I had to read this four times before I caught the problem. Apparently, my brain just reads "23th" as "23rd" and calls it a day.

Yeah, I've never heard of these kinds of parties. For my daughters, we invite several of their friends, they either play games or we host it at a public pool or park, and they stuff their faces with pizza and cake. At no point of this would we consider "wearing all white" to be a good idea.

Also, yeah, that does sound racist as hell. Who thinks these things up?

Chamomile · Post by **Chamomile** » Wed May 06, 2015 2:05 pm

Parties with a dresscode aren't uncommon and I've always thought that all-white looked really good (ironically, I think it looks best on black people - I like the contrast). It doesn't make any sense at all for a four-year old, though. Four year old aesthetic sensibilities are divided into two competing camps: The camp that thinks everything is better the brighter and gaudier the colors are, and the camp that thinks everything is better with as much mud caked on it as humanly possible. Plus some avant-garde types who think that true art lies in mixing the two.

erik · Post by **erik** » Wed May 06, 2015 2:09 pm

Heh, my wife and I first thought it was 28th which would've been even stranger since 5pm on a Thursday on the opposite side of the city... nobody working is gonna make that.

I sort of want to go out of a sense of curiosity, but driving across town to a restaurant where my 4 year old probably wouldn't eat anything and would not have a playground or equivalent for him to go wild on, in an outfit I would have to buy just for this purpose (let alone if I had to get an outfit as well)... ehhh, pass.

Ancient History · Post by **Ancient History** » Thu May 14, 2015 12:09 am

http://imgur.com/a/WS332#0

Ancient History · Post by **Ancient History** » Fri May 15, 2015 3:30 pm

Old R'lyeh

1 part white rum
1 part golden rum
1 part dark rum
1 part Indian tonic water
1 part key lime juice
1 part pineapple vinegar syrup*
1/2 part 151-proof rum
2 dashes of Peychaud's Bitters

Mix the tonic water, juice, bitters, and syrup together, then pour over crushed ice. Slowly add the rums, from light to dark, floating the 151-proof rum on top.

* The syrup is made in the manner of a shrub. Take a fresh pineapple and cut it into small cubes - you'll need about two cups of cut pineapple - and crush the cubes, being sure to lose as little of the juice as possible. Add two cups of Demerara sugar and stir it up, then let sit in the fridge overnight. Strain out the solids (except for any remaining sugar) and take the syrup and add two cups of drinking vinegar; stir until the sugar is dissolved. Bottle it and let it sit in the back of the fridge, shaking or stirring occasionally if the sugar falls out.

Stahlseele · Post by **Stahlseele** » Fri May 15, 2015 6:51 pm

§$%&!!!
Another day that makes me wish i could actually stand the taste of alcohol x.x
I can imagine life as a weekend alcoholic . . friday evening, open bottle, empty bottle, empty head . . enjoy weekend, go back to work on monday with a smile because you forgot what sucked about it on friday -.-

Prak · Post by **Prak** » Fri May 15, 2015 7:06 pm

Is the Old R'lyeh a flaming drink? There's really no other reason to use 151.

Ancient History · Post by **Ancient History** » Fri May 15, 2015 7:44 pm

It's based on the zombie, which can be a flaming drink.

Prak · Post by **Prak** » Fri May 15, 2015 8:39 pm

Fair enough.

Orion · Post by **Orion** » Fri May 15, 2015 11:23 pm

tussock wrote:Wear whatever you want, try not to notice that everyone else is an idiot.

What the fuck is wrong with you? Even if you were right about this, it would still be wrong to accept an invitation and then deliberately act out. Wrong and pointless.

Josh_Kablack · Post by **Josh_Kablack** » Sat May 16, 2015 12:30 am

Ancient History wrote:Old R'lyeh

So it's basically the world's most pointlessly convoluted mojito ?

erik · Post by **erik** » Sat May 16, 2015 1:11 am

Ancient History wrote:Old R'lyeh

Makes me think of this:

Ancient History · Post by **Ancient History** » Sat May 16, 2015 1:13 am

Josh_Kablack wrote:
Ancient History wrote:Old R'lyeh
So it's basically the world's most pointlessly convoluted mojito ?

Nah, it's a zombie crossed with a shrub. No mint.

tussock · Post by **tussock** » Sat May 16, 2015 5:25 am

Orion wrote:
tussock wrote:Wear whatever you want, try not to notice that everyone else is an idiot.
What the fuck is wrong with you? Even if you were right about this, it would still be wrong to accept an invitation and then deliberately act out. Wrong and pointless.

I live in a country where you can take up conditional invites that you have no intention of completely fulfilling so long as you're open about that. Including saying so when you turn up.

So if someone invites you to a white-clothes lawn bowls tournament or whatever, and you don't have anything white to wear, you turn up and say so and you play anyway. The assumption is people who keep turning up will eventually buy themselves some whites, or have a fair cause for not doing so, and if they didn't like the place then buying clothes for one or two events (that aren't your own wedding) is bullshit.

It's a thing about inviting people. In that it would be tremendously rude to invite someone and then tell them to fuck off when they turned up, that with every invitation you receive the point is that they want you to be there. It's not a trick or a challenge, it's an invitation. If everyone else dresses like an idiot, that's their problem, you don't have to.

hyzmarca · Post by **hyzmarca** » Sat May 16, 2015 4:49 pm

erik wrote:My 4 year old just got a birthday invitation to an "all white" birthday party for a classmate's 4th birthday at some lakefront jazz bar/cafe on the opposite side of Indianapolis (i.e. like 30-40 minutes away from where their preschool district is at).

I had to look up what an "all white" party was, I assumed initially that it was something Occluded Sun might attend with his pointy dress-hood, but apparently people just dress up in nice white clothes. Typically not 3-4 year-olds, I imagine. Who does that?

Is there a contact number to call on the invitation?

It's possible that the parents are just overdoing it in an attempt to give their kid the best birthday party ever.

It's also possible that you will have your organs harvested and sold on the black market if you go. Though that's extremely unlikely.

But I'd assume that either the bar/cafe is very different from what you imagine, or the parents are utterly clueless about what will happen when you get a bunch of four year olds together in a room.